Give yourself some space

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Give yourself some space

Every now and then Facebook reminds me of the events that happened in the past. This great function lets me know what I did exactly 2 years ago or 5 years ago. Every time I look at these photos, I cannot believe how it’s only few years ago, after all it seems like a lifetime ago.

What a great way to remind yourself how far you have come, what has changed and how in just few years from now things can look completely different again.


The concept of space

This morning, January 1st 2016, I lay in bed, drinking coffee and eating cookies. The sun was shining, the green light curtains were moving with the morning breeze, and I got to thinking about what I most wanted to give myself in 2016. The concept of space came to mind.

When I have had least in my life, I have felt like I had the most. When I gave up things that did not work anymore, and entered an area of empty space, I received the most.

We often want new things to enter our lives. New relationships, new things, new habits, new challenges. But we don’t want to let go of the old. We tend to jam our lives full with activities, up to the point when there is no room for spontaneous events, the feeling of flow or anticipation of something yet to come.


What would space feel like?

Five years ago I woke up to the new year in a new city, back in my home country after 10 years, ready to start a new job and a new life. My new tiny apartment was mainly empty. No couch, no TV, no dining table, just light wooden floors, wide window sills and open space. New colleagues would laugh at me and wonder how a 31 year-old could live with so much space.

I loved it.

There was room for new things to enter my life. I did not have habits, favorite places or circles of friends to keep me busy. After work I was free to wander around town, feed myself in restaurants or read a new book at home. I felt brave and open for new people, because I had space for new friends. I went to parties by myself and soon my life was starting to fill up with new.

New people, new ideas, new directions, new love. When I think back, this may have been the most exhilarating and free time in my life. Never before, and never since have I been so open. We rarely experience this kind of emptiness in our lives, because we start accumulating friends, furniture and ideas from early on.


Give yourself the gift of space

We have to be brave enough to create space for the universe to work its magic through us. If you don’t have grand plans for this year 2016, never mind. At least give yourself the gift of space.

Clean out your closet and throw out clothes that you are no longer using. Clean out your house and let the air pass through more lightly. Let go of people who are not giving you joy anymore. Clean out the hard drive of your laptop and make more time for space.

In the beginning this can be scary, because you have to allow the space to exist in your life. Do not try to fill it up with something else, but allow it to be what it is. Emptiness. Clarity. Room for new.

Space for you. Space for Universe. Then just watch what happens.

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