Beliefs are thoughts that have been with us for so long that we started to believe they are true. They can be beneficial to us (“I always learn new things fast” or “Good things are coming my way“), or they can be harmful for our development (“I always fail” or “I’m always so unlucky in life“).
When we want to change our lives around and start something new, there are plenty of these critical voices around and within. Some of them may be our own, some are thoughts adopted from the society we live in, some may come as a “friendly advice” from parents and friends, and some are just things we believe because we think that is the way reality is.
You create your own reality
Except that you create your own reality.
When thinking about a change, it’s often not enough to remove yourself from the situation you don’t want to be in. Law of attraction is strong enough to soon give you something else just like the situation you left behind, unless you actually change your vibration about it. Meaning, you need to learn to think differently and therefore feel differently in order to create an improved reality for yourself.
You can start by accepting where you are now.
Hard, because if it’s not where you’d like to be, how can you accept it? But not accepting where you are right now is also borderline madness – it already IS whether you like it or not, and it is because the way you have been thinking about your life before. Accepting where you are now is the square one, and from there you turn your nose towards the place where you want to go to, and don’t take your eye off it until you’ve made it.
5 things you should stop telling yourself – starting today!
When you are wanting to change things around, or when launching into a new career path, there are certain things that commonly run through your head. Here are five thoughts you should STOP telling yourself as of today. Recognize any of them?
1. I am not an expert…
So you are not an expert (yet). Don’t let this stop you. Maybe you have been working in a field you studied in and realized later on that this is actually not making you happy. It happens to many of us. Does it mean you have to go back to square one and start over? Not exactly.
Very few people start as experts in their new fields of passion. What is more important than being an expert, is having passion for your work, and loving your work!
When we started Reconnect Discover, we started selling products and experiences neither of us were trained and qualified to actually deliver yet! This little detail did not stop us, and not for a moment did we think it would not work out. This is passion. It gives you a crazy-kick and some miracle potion to survive all that comes your way. You need to make a goal for yourself, decide for a new version of yourself, and start making steps towards it.
There are many ways to get to your goals. You don’t have to have another 4-year collage degree to do what you want. Set up your own company, collaborate with people who know something you don’t, and find ways to learn what you need to learn for your next step. Take courses, read books, practice your skills and start slowly!
Think about this instead: What would be the best way to learn the needed skills? What courses could you take next to your day job? Who could you collaborate with? What skills do your friends have, what services could you trade?
2. I am not ready yet, maybe next year…
Know this, you will never be ready. Never. Accepting this fact will make your life easier. There will never be a moment when you can glide with ease from one comfort zone to the next. At one point you will have to trust that the time is right, and make the jump.
When I quit my job, I KNEW in my heart this was the right thing to do, and I KNEW that it would propel me forward more than staying ever could. But my mind was busy coming up with stalling scenarios: one more year, 6 more months, a little bit more time to save money, to plan better, to prepare, to do anything but having to get out of this bathroom, walk into the meeting room and sign my name on a paper that would finish my career. But I did it, nauseated and confused, and yet somehow feeling more peaceful than ever.
You are ready. Trust yourself. You do have what it takes! And yes, it should be scary. If it’s not scary at all, you are not dreaming big enough.
Think about this instead: Who could help you? Who could coach you? What inspirational material you could read to get over this edge? Focus on your goal, fiercely, and decide if going or staying is what will take you forward. Focus on your strengths and situations when you have been strong before. Remind yourself – you can do this!
3. It’s too late for me to change…
You may think it has been too long already, you are feeling like people “your age” don’t make any changes anymore. But you’d be happy to know that many people have changed their lives around after 30, 40, 50 years of age. It is never too late.
I started practicing yoga at the age of 32, and did my teacher training at the age of 34, and I was by far not the oldest one! When you follow your passion, who cares what age you are. You certainly will not care, because you will be too busy feeling awesome and in the flow of life!
Besides, you deserve it, no matter what you think. Focusing on yourself and your happiness is NOT selfish, it will benefit everyone around you, your family, your spouse, your kids, your colleagues, your friends, everyone. You will be making this world a better place by being happy.
Think about this instead: Research people who have peaked at a later stage in their lives! You’ll be surprised how many super-talents have started to focus on their talent later on in life. And remember, you are just where you are suppose to be, you have been developing strength and talent, now focus again and keep at it!
4. It’s too risky, I may lose everything…
This is a funny one, because it feels so true.What could you lose, what exactly would you lose? The job you hate? Friends who are not supportive of you? Money? Often we keep saying this like a mantra, I will lose everything, and then we feel paralyzed by fear and our own drama. But what exactly is EVERYTHING?
What are the most important things in your life? I’m sure you have figured out already that if you are miserable, no amount of money or possessions will make up for that. Usually the most important things are people, family and feelings of well being, joy and happiness. These you surely will not lose. Your talents, your education, your passion, your motivation, these are all things that you possess, things that nobody can ever take away from you.
Besides, you don’t have to take blind risks from one day to the next. Instead, you can slowly start to walk into the desired direction in your life. Take small steps, daily steps, baby steps.
Think about this instead: What can I do today that will bring me closer to my dreams? When I look back on my life at the end of it all, what are the most important things to me? What really matters? What should I have done differently.
5. I don’t know the first thing about setting up my own company…
Some of you may be thinking about starting your own company to be able to be the crazy creatives you are. But how to do it, it seems so difficult and daunting! Fear not, you don’t need to have it all figured out before you take the first step.
I sure didn’t. All I could figure out was to come up with a name that resonated with me, and to register the company with the local chamber of commerce. Then it was time for the following step, and with each step I learned more and more about what I should be doing.
You will never be ready to know everything there is to know, and you cannot cover all the steps before you start. It’s like being afraid to go to school because it feels impossible to ever graduate with the knowledge you have. Well, this is why we go to school, to learn, and we trust that by the time we graduate, we know more. This is the same with starting up your own company. You walk in, have your orientation, and start learning. Eventually, your company will grow with you.
Again, you don’t need to have 1000 paying customers the day you start. Just start building a base, decorating it, building on it some more, and once you feel ready, invite people in.
Think about this instead: Other people have done it, which means it is not impossible. You are just as smart, capable and creative as anybody out there, and people deserve to hear your talent! Now, what is the name of your creative business?
There you have it, thoughts that you should try to eliminate from your system in order to allow the creative side of you to bloom. Allow yourself to follow your passion, choose joy and happiness, and go with the flow.